Hi, there! It took me quite some time to get started on this blog because I wasn’t sure of what I should write about. I’m still not sure, but I decided to give it a go. In general I’m not very good with expressing myself through words. You can ask my friends, they are constantly laughing at me because of something that came out wrong. I prefer dancing and singing.
My first post is going to be kind of deep. I’ve been wondering how we as living, feeling and loving beings, can distance ourselves from people who are no longer featuring in our lives. I need to mention that I can get emotional, especially concerning my friends. I’m in my fourth year of study and I still find myself missing some of the friends I haven’t seen or heard of since our last day of school. I had to stop and ask myself to what extent loving people or, sometimes even clinging to people you think you love, is functional. I study psychology, so many people would expect me to know the answer to my own question, but I don’t. My question is: How do you stop loving or caring for people before it becomes disfunctional or inhibiting? I don’t see me missing my friends as inhibiting, since its only in moments of nostalgy that they come to mind again. Maybe its more the memory or the experience that evokes emotion rather than the person?
The reason I started thinking about this again, was because a friend of mine was mugged and stabbed this past weekend. I only found out a day later, but the moment the girl who told me, said it, I felt my heart stop for a moment. I had to focus for a moment to hear her say that he was okay and just a bit shaken. My next question is: How is it that some of us, like me, can love people in such a way that it seems impossible to live without them (friends, family) and then you get people who seem to not love anyone? From a psychological point of view, people would say it has to do with personality or disposition, but I find it hard to simplify it like that.
I hope I’m making a bit of sense, at least, and I would really like to hear some views on this. Cobus, ek wag in spanning…
Dancing Through Life 